Disconnect to Reconnect
When you are able to disconnect from everything, you are able to choose from anything.
What does this mean? I thought about this phrase last night, and instead of writing it directly in my journal, I decided to go to sleep. What a mistake that was. Thankfully I wrote down the phrase to try and reconstruct the thought process. Sadly it won't be as good as the original thought (or maybe it will be even better, who knows!) but I thought the idea was pretty cool at the time.
So, first off all, we must disconnect. But disconnect from what? What are we connected to?
We are connected to technology, we are connected to the people around us, we are connected to society. Being connected means that we are affected by said connections. All of these connections are either positive or negative. Thinking about it, a connection could also be neutral, no? If we have a neutral connection with something, do we care at all? It doesn't cause us any pain or pleasure, so do we want to disconnect from that too? Do we even notice the connection?
I feel as I am confused myself of what an actual connection is. A clear example would be a connection you have with a friend. Let's name him Bob. You can be connected to Bob in many ways, you can have great discussions with him, you can do an activities with him, you can cook with him. All of these are positive connections that you have with Bob. You also realise that you seem to have some negative connections with Bob. Bob can sometimes put you down. He can say negative things, and these negative things can put you down.
What would happen if you chose to disconnect from the negative phrases Bob tells you? What if you were able to not let Bob's negative comments affect you? Shrug them off? Do we have the power to do that? I think that we do.
Look at it this way. Let's introduce Kevin, who is a stranger you cross in the street. Kevin says something negative to you as he passes you by. how do you feel?
Let's say that you never met Kevin, and one day you are relaxing with your friend Bob, when he tell you the exact same thing that Kevin, the stranger, said to you. How do you feel about that?
Which statement hurts you the most? Bob's negativity or Kevin's negativity?
In general, both parties can say the same statement, but the person you are closest to will affect you more than the one you have never seen before.
What is happening here? Why does something that comes from someone you are closer to hurt more? Is it because you trust them with your feelings? You are close to them and would never hurt them in that way? You sense betrayal between the bond you share? A bond that would do not have at all with Kevin.
In any case, it is not the words that are said that can hurt someone the most, but who they are said by. This proves that you can control how much negativity you want to receive b the recipient.
What if you imagined that all negative statements that were said uttered were said by "strangers"? To be able to curb or completely eliminate negativity?
What if you could switch, or disconnect from that negativity? What if you could just shrug off your friend's negative comments, jut as you shrugged off Kevin's negativity?
I truly believe that this is possible. Because in the end, it is not Bob, Kevin, or anyone else who is hurting you. Your biggest bully is yourself. In the end, you are the one controlling how much negativity you receive from your surroundings. You are the one who chooses if you wish to be hurt from others. You are the one connecting into that pain.
Another example, someone who accidentally breaks a coffee cup will not get as mad as someone who breaks it on purpose. Same goes for physical pain. I have also found that physical pain is lessened when you know it was an accident, than when it was done on purpose. The mind is a powerful thing.
What one must do is disconnect from the things they do not want. "No, I don't want these words to hurt me anymore." "I don't want those past memories to haunt me anymore." "I do not believe in pain."
It is you who decides the final outcome of each connection you make. You are the one who perceives it as a negative, positive, or neutral event. One can even change a supposed negative event into a positive event. I'm sure it's even happened to you, or someone you know in the past:
Has anyone ever told you something, in which you say thank you, and they respond with "That wasn't a compliment." ?
In this example, you, without even realising it, have turned a negative statement into a positive one. If this is possible with the above example, then it can be applied to many, if not all other "negative" connections. If you cannot turn them positive, you can at the very least turn them into something neutral, or even in something less negative than before.
If you cannot disconnect from a negativity, look at the source. Could someone who is mentally sick ever be able to hurt you with words? They have their reasons that are beyond their control. I believe this is the case with most people. Had we lived their lives and had the same chemical composition they have in their brain, we would probably have reacted the same way.
Thinking this way, we cannot even blame another for their negativity, it is just their way. So why even be offended by what they say or do in the first place?
So now we have full manipulation of all connections. We disconnect from everything in our lives, and once this action is done, we reconnect to only the positive connections. All of the negative connections, we find a way to either turn them neutral, positive, or if we cannot do either, we just don't connect to that negative emotion at all.
We are the ones in control of our own feelings. We choose to let the negativity manipulate us, or we choose to ignore it, or positivity it.
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On a side note, would it be possible to choose to taste chocolate as I bite into an apple? I'm gonna try until I succeed!
What does this mean? I thought about this phrase last night, and instead of writing it directly in my journal, I decided to go to sleep. What a mistake that was. Thankfully I wrote down the phrase to try and reconstruct the thought process. Sadly it won't be as good as the original thought (or maybe it will be even better, who knows!) but I thought the idea was pretty cool at the time.
So, first off all, we must disconnect. But disconnect from what? What are we connected to?
We are connected to technology, we are connected to the people around us, we are connected to society. Being connected means that we are affected by said connections. All of these connections are either positive or negative. Thinking about it, a connection could also be neutral, no? If we have a neutral connection with something, do we care at all? It doesn't cause us any pain or pleasure, so do we want to disconnect from that too? Do we even notice the connection?
I feel as I am confused myself of what an actual connection is. A clear example would be a connection you have with a friend. Let's name him Bob. You can be connected to Bob in many ways, you can have great discussions with him, you can do an activities with him, you can cook with him. All of these are positive connections that you have with Bob. You also realise that you seem to have some negative connections with Bob. Bob can sometimes put you down. He can say negative things, and these negative things can put you down.
What would happen if you chose to disconnect from the negative phrases Bob tells you? What if you were able to not let Bob's negative comments affect you? Shrug them off? Do we have the power to do that? I think that we do.
Look at it this way. Let's introduce Kevin, who is a stranger you cross in the street. Kevin says something negative to you as he passes you by. how do you feel?
Let's say that you never met Kevin, and one day you are relaxing with your friend Bob, when he tell you the exact same thing that Kevin, the stranger, said to you. How do you feel about that?
Which statement hurts you the most? Bob's negativity or Kevin's negativity?
In general, both parties can say the same statement, but the person you are closest to will affect you more than the one you have never seen before.
What is happening here? Why does something that comes from someone you are closer to hurt more? Is it because you trust them with your feelings? You are close to them and would never hurt them in that way? You sense betrayal between the bond you share? A bond that would do not have at all with Kevin.
In any case, it is not the words that are said that can hurt someone the most, but who they are said by. This proves that you can control how much negativity you want to receive b the recipient.
What if you imagined that all negative statements that were said uttered were said by "strangers"? To be able to curb or completely eliminate negativity?
What if you could switch, or disconnect from that negativity? What if you could just shrug off your friend's negative comments, jut as you shrugged off Kevin's negativity?
I truly believe that this is possible. Because in the end, it is not Bob, Kevin, or anyone else who is hurting you. Your biggest bully is yourself. In the end, you are the one controlling how much negativity you receive from your surroundings. You are the one who chooses if you wish to be hurt from others. You are the one connecting into that pain.
Another example, someone who accidentally breaks a coffee cup will not get as mad as someone who breaks it on purpose. Same goes for physical pain. I have also found that physical pain is lessened when you know it was an accident, than when it was done on purpose. The mind is a powerful thing.
What one must do is disconnect from the things they do not want. "No, I don't want these words to hurt me anymore." "I don't want those past memories to haunt me anymore." "I do not believe in pain."
It is you who decides the final outcome of each connection you make. You are the one who perceives it as a negative, positive, or neutral event. One can even change a supposed negative event into a positive event. I'm sure it's even happened to you, or someone you know in the past:
Has anyone ever told you something, in which you say thank you, and they respond with "That wasn't a compliment." ?
In this example, you, without even realising it, have turned a negative statement into a positive one. If this is possible with the above example, then it can be applied to many, if not all other "negative" connections. If you cannot turn them positive, you can at the very least turn them into something neutral, or even in something less negative than before.
If you cannot disconnect from a negativity, look at the source. Could someone who is mentally sick ever be able to hurt you with words? They have their reasons that are beyond their control. I believe this is the case with most people. Had we lived their lives and had the same chemical composition they have in their brain, we would probably have reacted the same way.
Thinking this way, we cannot even blame another for their negativity, it is just their way. So why even be offended by what they say or do in the first place?
So now we have full manipulation of all connections. We disconnect from everything in our lives, and once this action is done, we reconnect to only the positive connections. All of the negative connections, we find a way to either turn them neutral, positive, or if we cannot do either, we just don't connect to that negative emotion at all.
We are the ones in control of our own feelings. We choose to let the negativity manipulate us, or we choose to ignore it, or positivity it.
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On a side note, would it be possible to choose to taste chocolate as I bite into an apple? I'm gonna try until I succeed!
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